An example of a self-imposed limit is that you must have a car before you can get a job. You may even blame me because you do not have a car or a job. But you and I both know that excuse is not valid. If you really wanted a job, you know you could get one. Again, that is a self-imposed limit. Maybe you say that you need more knowledge. Only you are responsible for what you are learning, and reading this can be a first step in understanding your own self-imposed limits. Learn as much as you can and you will find that your self-imposed limits will expand to allow you to accomplish more.
Once again, just saying "NO" and not bowing to peer pressure may be your best decision. People that say "NO" become the respected leaders instead of just followers. You may not think it through completely before you do it. Here is one way to decide if you should do it: What would your parents, friends, relatives, neighbors, teacher, or employer think of you if they saw on the front page of tomorrow's newspaper your picture and a headline stating what you had just done today? Maybe what you are getting ready to do is illegal, but at the moment you can think you can get away with it. Don't count on it. There are more people out there that are watching you than you may think. Some people may be looking up to you as a leader for guidance, but you are not aware of that fact until it is too late.
Your sister or brother may have also demonstrated to me that they are willing to take responsibility for their actions while you have not. By taking responsibility for their actions, they have gained more respect from me and will be allowed more freedom to make their own choices. If you use off-color language to me or others in my presence, you are demonstrating how immature you are and I am not about to give you more freedom. The use of off-color language is showing a lack of respect for others and mostly for yourself. Here are some books that may be of help.
